Popular musician, Charles Oputa, professionally called Charly Boy on Friday said it is stupid to think that having a gay child means that parents have failed.
Charly Boy, who revealed that his Atlanta based daughter Dewy Oputa is lesbian, explained on his social media handle how hard it was for him to come to terms with his daughter’s news that she is lesbian.
Area Fada admitted that he is very close to his kids and they are his friends, but he was not ready for the news his daughter Dewy Oputa had for him.
Charly Boy wrote, “About 4yrs ago, my last princess of the house called me from America, from her tone, I was bracing up for whatever she was about to tell me especially when she kept saying to me, ‘daddy promise me you won’t get mad at me, or give up on me.’
“I am close with my children and I love them to bits. They are my friends. But I wasn’t really ready for the ‘breaking news’ my Princess Dewy had for me. When my child told me she is gay, a lesbian, I experienced a range of emotions, during that phone conversation.
“So many things went through my mind, one of them included self-blame (did I do something wrong?) (the child I thought I knew and loved no longer exists.), worry (will my child be discriminated against?) religious confusion (is my child damned to spend eternity in hell?), and stigma (what will people think of my child? of me?).”
Charly Boy said he tried not to overreact when his daughter spoke about her sexuality because he didn’t want to strain their relationship.
He added, “I was hoping it was a prank but it was happening in real time. Even though I was unusually calm through that conversation, my mind was wondering in all directions.
“Months before this incident, I was lending my voice in support of LGTB rights in Nigeria. Is life playing tricks on me? Now my daughter is gay, why do I feel disappointed? Am I a hypocrite? How do I handle this bombshell?”
The musician said he was determined to win this new challenge that life had thrown at him.
“I told myself that I will get through this, and many months later I did.
“As a matter of fact, I now look back and find that I am grateful for the experience of having a gay or lesbian child,” he stated.
Charly Boy said he was confident that having overcome this challenge, there was nothing that could come between him and his children.
He said it is stupid to even think that having a gay child means that parents have failed.
“Acceptance of the truth is like surgery. It hurts but cures. A lie is like a pain killer. It gives instant relief but its side effects can last forever,” Charly Boy said